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sexy couple3 Ordinary or what would be termed ‘vanilla’ erotic romance novels that have erotic elements but don’t include BDSM or extreme kink in one form or another have been sorely MIA lately. It’s as if it’s almost impossible for a love scene in a story to be considered erotic without chains, crops and sex toys. It seems that since the arrival of FSOG all we see now are BDSM novels, most of which are simply replica’s of E.L. James’ book.

What ever happened to the basic love stories and the emotions that used to be expected in the plot of a romance novel? Is it that pain for pleasure is all that remains in contemporary romantic writing? BDSM is hot now, so are menages, but I’ve found that reading a story that focuses so heavily on these aspects, and the connection between the leads is centered on only those things then the true romance is often lost altogether and it doesn’t work, no matter what kink the writer includes.

For me, erotic romance doesn’t have to be super kinky, or extreme, or out there. Not  that there shouldn’t be stuff like that in some books, it just feels as though it’s in every book nowadays. And when i read them it seems like some authors are actually uncomfortable writing it, and are just doing it to fit in. Well that’s how it comes across to me as a reader. I appreciate an author that can write erotic romances well, making the sex scenes really hot without necessarily having to include any aspect of BDSM. I agree that some books will call for that, the characters lend themselves to those kinds of situations, their relationship calls for it and that way the scenes tend to be more fulfilling to read for me. But unless a character’s personality, or the dynamics of a relationship between characters works with whips, cuffs, gags or blindfolds, I honestly don’t feel it should be done.

Likewise, I find it almost ridiculous that pretty much every heroine I read about these days is a submissive. Does that mean deep inside, all women secretly want to be collared and controlled? Not to sound feminist or anything, because believe me I will get into that if the mood strikes and it can be very hot, but what’s so wrong with being sexual equals? No kneeling, no bowing, no punishment? What about those women who would actually sucker punch a guy for asking her to submit to him? Aren’t they worth reading about too?

Well I say, bring back the sweet, sexy stories please. Let the characters tell you how wild they want to get in between the sheets. Let them go crazy, but it isn’t always necessary to throw in the kinky props and toys. There is a lot of sexy, erotic stuff that people can do without any of those things.

So what do you think? Do you miss those super hot, sexy erotic romances, that focus on the characters and their steamy relationships, instead of how much kink the author can squeeze into the plot? Are we suffering from BDSM overkill? Leave me a comment, I want to hear your thoughts!

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