Here’s another great article i stumbled upon recently. The writer gives several very good tips on how to ease a woman into the act of sex without juts getting right to it. In my experience, most women would actually agree with all of what she says, i do too. But then it triggered another question in my head, is foreplay really necessary all the time? I mean isn’t there some point at which you wanna just get right down to the down and dirty? Don’t you just want to have your clothes ripped off and be backed up against a wall sometimes?
My opinion is that foreplay has it’s place and more often than not, it’s actually necessary but you have to find that balance that works for you. It’s all about the mood you find yourself in at any given time. Have a read of Ainsley Patterson’s article and then leave me a comment with your thoughts.
10 Foreplay Tips: How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom
It seems like men can be ready to have sex, both mentally and physically, at the drop of a hat. This, however, usually isn’t the case with women. Women usually require more “warming up” before they are ready for sex, both mentally and physically. If you want to better satisfy a woman in the bedroom, then you might need to tune up your foreplay skills.
Foreplay Tip #1 Don’t immediately go for the hot spots.
Going straight for a woman’s breasts, neck, or other highly erogenous zones is not a good way to kick off foreplay. Gently rubbing her arms, stomach, legs, back, and hair is a much better way to get her warmed up to the idea of having sex. Going straight for a woman’s breasts just screams desperation and selfishness.
Foreplay Tip #2 Take your time before undressing her.
Anticipation is one of your best friends when it comes to foreplay. If she is wondering every time that your hands wander to the top of her pants or the bottom of her shirt if this will be the time you will start to undress her, then she is sure to be lying on pins and needles, which will heighten her senses, making all subsequent touches that much more sensual.
Foreplay Tip #3 Once you do undress her, remember to make it an experience.
Instead of simply taking her shirt off, pull it up over her eyes and kiss her, not being able to see where you are going next will make her super sensitive to your touch, take advantage of that. Take each layer, shirt, undershirt, bra, pants, underwear, even socks, off one at a time. Think of each layer of clothing as another opportunity to make her squirm.
Foreplay Tip #4 Light and gentle wins out over rough and fast.
While you are kissing all over, and you should take the time to kiss all over, make sure that you are doing it in a light and gentle way. Going to fast or too hard isn’t a good idea when her body is in a heightened sense of arousal, it might cause her to feel like she is being tickled, whForeplay Tip #4 Liich will lead to laughing instead of moaning.
Foreplay Tip #5 Compliment and talk dirty in equal proportions.
Being complimented too much starts to get annoying, talking dirty too much may make her feel dirty, mixing compliments and dirty talk will make her feel sexy. When you are kissing her neck, whisper dirty things in her ear, when you are kissing her stomach and arms, tell her how sexy you think she is.
Foreplay Tip #6 Don’t spend too much time in one spot, keep it moving.
If you have found a great spot that the woman enjoys a lot, that is great, just break up the attention you give to that spot by moving back and forth between that spot to others. Spending too much time on one spot on her body may start to make her bored.
Foreplay Tip #7 Take control.
If you are performing foreplay on her, then you need to take control. You don’t have to be forceful, but you can tell her what positions you want her in, whether you want her eyes open or closed, whether she should watch you or not, etc.
Foreplay Tip #8 Go downtown.
If you really want her begging to have sex, then go downtown. Be gentle, take your time, and pay attention to her body language while you are down there. Don’t be afraid to get your whole body involved while you are down there, use your shoulders to hold her legs, your hands to rub her thighs, your nose, fingers, etc.
Foreplay Tip #9 Make sure that she is well lubricated before you finish up your foreplay and move on to sex.
Trying to have sex without proper lubrication can be quite painful for a woman, especially if you are a rather well-endowed man. Don’t stop with the foreplay until she is physically ready to have sex. If she is telling you she wants to have sex now but she isn’t lubricated enough then bring in the KY or some other store bought lubricant.
Foreplay Tip #10 If she starts to lose the mood while you are in the middle of sex, return to foreplay for a minute or two to get her back in the mood.
Just because you have started having sex doesn’t mean that you can’t return to foreplay when she starts to lose the mood. If she begins to lose lubrication or seems like she is getting frustrated, then return to foreplay for a minute so that she can relax again.